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Dr. Ren Vale
UX Psychology Researcher
Saturday, June 20, 2026 · 9:41 AM
ok dumb question, what’s the deal with design for your ego?
Cognitive dissonance makes criticism feel personal. Once your identity gets tied up in the work, feedback stops being useful input and starts feeling like something you need to defend against.
so the villain is... my brain trying to be helpful?
pretty much
your brain hates blank space, so it fills it with the nearest sample: you
In 2010, Microsoft launched the Kin, a social phone built for teenagers.
that feels rude but accurate
think of it like designing a hotel room while standing in your own bedroom. everything feels obvious because you know where your socks are
wait so the fix is just ‘ask users’?
annoyingly, no
asking helps, but the chapter is warning you about the gap between what feels true and what survives contact
In 2010, Microsoft launched the Kin, a social phone built for teenagers. It had been in development for two years and reportedly cost around $1 billion. Then it…
ok that’s the part people skip
yep. the work stops feeling separate from you is the trap door
then it shows up as kin had too much of microsoft in it
(1957).
so what do i actually do differently on monday
name the ego move before it starts writing product rationale
ask what the user needs if nobody gets credit
and if a choice only works for informed, patient, caffeinated people, treat that as a bug
painfully usable advice
that’s the series tbh
design psychology is mostly noticing the human nonsense before it ships
ok send me the next one after i recover
deal. hydrate first
Read Sat, Jun 20 · 10:03 AM